I think it gets easier and easier to define what you want in life as you get older. I struggled a lot with the thoughts of my own future when I was younger. Although I wouldn't say "struggle", per-say, it was more like I had so many choices and choices were what made it more difficult to say exactly what I wanted for myself. However it is much harder to judge someone as I get older because I have gone through experiences that allow me to place myself in someone elses shoes easier than when I was younger. "Intolerance is a lack of imagination" or something like that... I know definitely that I want a man who has a sense of humor similar to my own. Someone who is considerate, somone who is my best friend. I'll write more of this at another time.